The Last DB Thread? By Tori

[subguy]

Today was rough. We did very well working as a team to do the taxes, but then we had to work on the health insurance thing, so he had to call HR and COBRA and the insurance and no one knew the answer. He kept repeating the story about him getting D. He avoided saying the word Wife, so he would call me dependent and the operator asked if it was a child so it was so stressful. I was listening for an hour and by then, I was so stressed out I just wanted to leave. So he looked at me, and said, this is so stressful. I nodded. He asked, are you OK? I said no, and broke down. First time I do that since he moved out. I could not help it. So he started crying too and I felt like crying more. I told him that if he was happy then at least all the pain was worth it. He said that this is what he wanted. So it took us a little while to finish the insurance conversation, and we solved it. I sent all the papers to the L and we should be OK for the final court date on 4/12.

During lunch (prior to the insurance conversation,) he asked me what I thought about the OW being controlling. I said I would not comment on it and that he would figure things out (like my coach suggested.) He just said, yes. He also said he was trying to put himself in the OW's shoes and that her demands for him to have zero contact with me made sense to her but the way she was asking wasn't the best. First time I see him be so empathetic.

Something that hurt too is what he said about "people" telling him there is no incentive for me to make more money the way the agreement is written. I asked who had said that. He said his dad had been one of them. I'm not calling his dad anymore. He did the same thing to his wife anyway, when my H was only 7 years old. I will just stay in touch with my MIL and grandma.

Hard day. I'm still pretty shaken.

Tomorrow will be better...

Sounds like a rough day, I am so sorry you had it that bad. These feelings just keep peeling away. Hugs (((((T)))))