WOW... I think I will pat myself on the back today, and just sit tight.
I guess he is missing all of us... first text to d yesterday, then me, and now for him to call and want to get the cat even?... LOL WOW!!
Slow your roll! You REALLY need to reign in those expectations. You're getting WAY too excited everytime your H texts or calls. These are nothing more than baby steps on a long, long road to possible reconciliation. I remember seeing some signs like this early on that really got my hopes up, I thought we were well along the road to recovery and that unlike everyone else my sitch was different and I was going to beat the odds and reconcile quickly. Yet here I am almost 10 months post-BD still in limbo. Looking back I can see now that I was getting excited over things that were little more than my W just being a nice person.
So just settle down, accept that your sitch is not going to miraculously heal overnight and keep your eyes on the distant goal instead of the day-to-day fluctuations.
LOL SS.. here I go again, he called/texted a few times while out.. I ignored and called when I got back in. He seemed to go on and on and ummms during our last convo, I could tell we were getting close to some dead air, so I pretended that I had another call and said, I g2g. Feels good.
While out, bought new pair of jeans (feels good)
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
TX AS... keep me grounded... But, at least tonight I can enjoy my high and have a nice time at the party, instead of being my usual down.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
Your high and your down should not depend on any thing that H does.
Otherwise, doin good!
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
PON... What? Im not sure what you are saying, try again?
H just texted again 7:30 Friday nite... about a "possible" client appointment.... Im sure that it could have waited till tomorrow...geez
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
You REALLY need to reign in those expectations. You're getting WAY too excited everytime your H texts or calls. These are nothing more than baby steps on a long, long road to possible reconciliation. I remember seeing some signs like this early on that really got my hopes up, I thought we were well along the road to recovery and that unlike everyone else my sitch was different and I was going to beat the odds and reconcile quickly. Yet here I am almost 10 months post-BD still in limbo. Looking back I can see now that I was getting excited over things that were little more than my W just being a nice person. 