DBing, European style

[Papa4Life]

Of course you're probably right. This is most likely wishful thinking on my part. I'll shift the focus back to me. (And the book is going under the mattress for safekeeping.)

The real question today is how to tactfully quit MC without giving W the idea that I think everything is resolved. W says she wants to go because the MC can be a kind of mediator, but it feels to me like MC just wants to make us accept that our differences can never be reconciled and to help make the road to D paved and smoothed. How about if I say "I'd prefer to arrange things for ourselves, because I think we are capable of making our own decisions and working together effectively to make any arrangements that need to be made." (I was thinking of adding "if and when the time comes," but -- and as a lawyer, 25, you might agree with this point -- that would just give her the opening to say "the time HAS come, and I want to take steps now." And I'll probably tell the MC the same thing: I'd prefer to work with my W without having an outside person validating her feelings without giving her the time and space to really consider all of the drawbacks to what a D would mean for her and our family.

Feedback? Suggestions? Advice?