You are right the WAS's are in such internal turmoil they think that by getting a D and getting involved w other people, they'll achieve happiness. But once the newness of the new R fades, they'll be unhappy again and start their search for happiness. Typical egotistical behavior.
I was also reading a book which titled caught my attention, so I borrowed it from the library. They talk about affairs and how they happen, and the situation seemed to perfectly match my H's.
Had a hard time achieving peace last night. I was hurt. But I remembered that if it wasn't for this situation, I would've never been able to understand the pain of abandonment/ breakdown of a marriage, and would've never been able to write my book and help other people.
Yeah. No more contact with FIL or his wife and daughter. His wife was also quick to criticize me in the past, anyway.
My H might never see the light. He could very much keep hopping from woman to woman until he's so old that he has to settle with the woman of the day and live at ordinary levels of awareness until he passes away.
