Hi Wendy! Hope you are doing well and thriving, all things considered...
nero - You know your H best, but I think any attempts at being nice and such are an effort towards the spouse...now the real motivation, THAT is the question...
FY - I actually did try a couple very, very, very lite flirts via email in March...so subtle you would have to know me and our history to get them as flirts...one got no response, one got a vary dubious "I see...." reply...so I tested, got result and done testing. I do feel it's better to do in person where I can gauge her mood and use my, as W said, "wolf eyes" and mischievous lop-sided grins...nothing overt, just mischievous subtly (funny how I usually don't "get" subtle, but I can "do" subtle...) And since she has stated that she is trying to give herself attention, validation from within, and not be as dependent on external sources and other men...so best to let her be.
So I am going with humor, caring, interest in her as I have been and Snodderly, rH and TVS suggested. Patience dialed up to the max, and Snodderly is right, this IS a more difficult stage for me. I know I cannot help push it along, but I certainly can screw it up and stall it or worse... More lessons in patience, tolerance, forgiving and trusting in life and God....
W was/is rather withdrawn today/tonight, no email chat, gone "inside". I was light and "no big deal", she did actually answer my queries about her day, and gave me a couple smiles of the sort that tells me she was trying to be pleasant in spite of her mood...So I have a veggie garden to prep, taxes, misc other projects to keep me out of my own way this weekend.
Thank you all for your comments and suggestions, I DO appreciate them, very much.
Make a great weekend!
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
