LF, I'm sorry you're so stressed, and I hope that your health is OK. You have a lot on your plate. You're getting good advice from men. However, as a representative of your wife's gender, I wanted to chime in and ask you why you are so quick with the beatdowns about her.
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I know it may seem that i am so fast to beat down about her. But what i do here is i try to vent from time to time to help me. My health is ok I just saw the Dr. But Yes I do have alot on my plate and some times it feels like there is no way out. But i put my trust in God the best I can to know he give you what you can handle.
Just a couple of times on this page only, you were all the sun shines because of you, one minute, and what a b!tch the next because she didn't write back, and then Oh she wrote back it's all good.
[color:#000099]Yes i know i go back and forth alot. It is just I know how she was and she would always respond. and when she does not i say i dont care if she does or not but honestly it matters. she has become so unprodictable to me and even her family.
Why do you call someone you supposedly love a b!tch? Why would you be interested in being with a b!tch? Do you think she would feel at all kindly toward you if she knew that's what you were thinking whenever she doesn't drop everything and write back to your text?
[/color]Ok i guess it is not calling her the b!tch is more so for her actions. I am the type of person that always gives and helps otheres when needed. It does not matter who it is. So it kinda hurts to see her hurting and just not taking the help i have offered. Sometimes I do things with out anyone even knowing. I put 1,000 in her moms account a few times cause she had no money for oil food. She still does not know who did it.
I believe you are doing a common thing, that is hiding hurt behind anger. It is going to hurt your relationships, this one and any others. I would suggest you try learning better coping skills, primarily not reacting emotionally before you give time to pass and calm down and see what the real situation is, and also not going straight to name-calling when you legitimately feel offended.
[color:#000099] You know i think you hit something here that i did not look at. I think the hurt that I have is or most times come out as anger. I always try to let things go but some times I have a hard time. i had been taking yoga and meditation but i have let that go for a few months. Maybe i need to get back into it...
At the very least, you may feel better about yourself as a person if you're more generous with your emotions, giving someone the benefit of the doubt and being kind. They may not even really deserve it, if you're into bean-counting, but it's for you as much as for them. It's about who you are.
[/color]I'm not sure about what you mean by bean counting. But i have said this in the past and have always given and given not looking for nything back. what i get out of it is the joy that the person enjoyed it.
I hope you find this perspective thought-provoking and not insulting; you seem like a good guy but very reactive.
[color:#000099]Thank you so much for chiming in, i am always looking for the view point of the other side. I just do love her very much and i just do not understand what has realy happen and why she wil not even talk to me about anything. But i guess this is a plan from God.
