Relax....this is a marathon. Seeing a lawyer doesn't mean anything....hell, actually divorcing doesn't even mean it's final.
There is no quick fix. It's going to take time....a lot of time. Even if you fixed all your problems today, it'd probably be 6 months before he believed it. So start working on you....the sooner you get there, the sooner he can see your changes and start believing them.
Give your H some space. I think you could use the space too...are you GAL?
Did you read my post?
Originally Posted By: Breakdown
Have you read DR? How about 5LL? 37 Rules (top of the Newcomers section)?
Then, decide what you want to work on....insecurity for sure, but what else?
A lot of what you described sounds like me...and I will tell you, insecurity bleeds into a whole bunch of other negative attributes I did not like in myself.
What did you not like about your role in your M? What were your H's complaints?
With regards to contact with your H, you need to think about how you are projecting yourself. Are you showing him a PMA? Or more negativity and anger? Which do you think is more attractive?
I know it's difficult right now. Hang in there and try to focus on you.
