My WAW story

[JRG]

Hello all. I've been lurking on here for about a week and finally decided to join up and share my story.

My wife and I have been married for 8 years. No children. This past winter she seemed to be going through her typical "winter depression"...but this time with less motivation for her hobbies. I didn't think too much about it as it seemed fairly normal to previous winters. I thought that the upcoming Spring season would bring her back to her usual self.

But on 2/13/13 she showed me a personality book that she recently bought and read. She said that she realized that she didn't really know who she was and that she couldn't "see" us together in the future. My dense head didn't see this as a foreshadow of what was to happen.

On 3/10/13 she told me that she needed time alone and space to think and that she may move out. She said that besides her not knowing herself that she had been unhappy in our M for 6 years, that she felt that I've been ignoring her (conversationally and emotionally), and that she still loved me but didn't have feelings for me anymore. I was in disbelief and told her that I thought that we'd be together forever. She said she assumed that I was as unhappy as her. I went through all the crying, reasoning, and letter writing phase that seems to be the norm. I picked up the 5L Languages book and asked her to read through it. She said that her "love tank" was not only empty but totally destroyed. Nothing I did worked (of course) and on 3/30/13 she moved into an apartment.

I've since found this site and read through DR. I immediately starting DB'ing.

Since she moved out we've talked on the phone a few times (no R talk) and saw each other twice for a short time. All these interactions were initiated by her except for one call that I made to see how her doctor appt went.

Today was our 8th wedding anniversary. Two weeks ago we agreed to have a date night, which we did tonight. We had good friendly conversation and a few laughs. No R talk or future talk although I did buy her roses (something I got out of the habit of doing years ago). She hugged me 3 separate times in the 2 hrs that we were together (something we used to do daily). These are especially nice to get now!

I sooooo bad want to tell her how much I want to save our relationship, how much I miss her, and how much I want to start a new love-filled marriage with her. I know I can't

I'm assuming that I'm in LRT territory??? Should I be employing the "going dark" technique? I'm really afraid that she'll see it as the same old cold stuff.