I don't think you sound awful. I also think it's nice that you're trying to be less messy. You may develop new habits and be glad of them. It can't hurt. Hang in there. It just takes a lot of time and you have to do something to keep from going crazy. Cleaning's as good a start as any. Hang in there, you're getting good advice.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.