Sweetie, you do whatever you feel you want to do. It's your decision.
In my opinion, I never felt not answering my xh was passively punishing him. I guess because that wasnt my mindset whenever I decided not to answer. It was for me. I just felt that nothing would be gained from answering him and it would just annoy me. But everyone is different. Though we all experienced MLC, each of our journeys are unique to us.
