Spoke with W and there was a bit of misunderstanding over transition/ pick with our sons. I thought i was picking them up tomorrow, but she got a spontaneous invitation to go and see a friend and expected me to pick them up this afternoon.

Conversation was a little tense and I mentioned that i was not aware she wanted me to pick them up today and that i had planned to go to work and catch up on some things. She wasnt too impressed and suggested that I had not communicated very well with her.
I kept the conversation going and we decided i would pick them up tomorrow morning which was i had gathered from a text message she had sent me. I could feel the tension but i stayed friendly and wrapped up the conversation.

She is still harbouring anger towards me. Its hard to keep it all friendly and I could have changed my plans to accommodate her, but I am not sure this is the right attitude. Just drop everything because she gets an invitation to go out?
I suggested that i could take the boys next weekend so she could see her friend if that worked for her, but she mentioned that it was a last minute thing and today would have been better.

What are peoples opinions on this kind of thing? I want to be friendly and supportive but I also don't want to just do whatever she wants me to do as I dont think this will diffuse her anger with me in the long term, she will just find something else to be resentful about. Its a tricky one, but i think i handled it respectfully to her but more importantly respectful to myself.
IS that being too arrogant or "RIGHT".

Me - 37
W - 37
M -5
T - 15

S=5
S=3

Seperated - 12/12
BD - 20/03/13
Still seperated - no R or M talk yet.