LF, I'm sorry you're so stressed, and I hope that your health is OK. You have a lot on your plate. You're getting good advice from men. However, as a representative of your wife's gender, I wanted to chime in and ask you why you are so quick with the beatdowns about her.
Just a couple of times on this page only, you were all the sun shines because of you, one minute, and what a b!tch the next because she didn't write back, and then Oh she wrote back it's all good. Why do you call someone you supposedly love a b!tch? Why would you be interested in being with a b!tch? Do you think she would feel at all kindly toward you if she knew that's what you were thinking whenever she doesn't drop everything and write back to your text?
I believe you are doing a common thing, that is hiding hurt behind anger. It is going to hurt your relationships, this one and any others. I would suggest you try learning better coping skills, primarily not reacting emotionally before you give time to pass and calm down and see what the real situation is, and also not going straight to name-calling when you legitimately feel offended.
At the very least, you may feel better about yourself as a person if you're more generous with your emotions, giving someone the benefit of the doubt and being kind. They may not even really deserve it, if you're into bean-counting, but it's for you as much as for them. It's about who you are.
I hope you find this perspective thought-provoking and not insulting; you seem like a good guy but very reactive.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
