I spent 18 months being silent as he walked all over me.

I spent 18 months taking the blame for everything.

I am not answering him for him I am going to answer him for me and my children.

"First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out--
Because I was not a Socialist.
Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak out--
Because I was not a Trade Unionist.
Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out--
Because I was not a Jew.
Then they came for me--and there was no one left to speak for me."

Nothing I say or don't say will bring my H any closer to being part of my family. Being silent is passive aggresively punishing him and also hurting my mental state.

I will answer at some point, not for him but for me


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M 39
H 35
D5,D4
M 4
T 9
ILYBNILWY 5/18/11
Left 7/11/11
Divorced 12/1/13