There is very little that she could do that would offend me while we were in bed (heck, on the floor, or in an elevator!) to give or get pleasure. I have started to come in from behind laying on our sides (spooning) and while i enter her reaching in front and playing with her to get an O.
Regarding oral, I dont mind doing it to her and not getting it back, dont get me wrong, i do really enjoy receiving not just giving. I would love her to make more of an effort to add passion into the mix, when i read threads about how some of the HDW prepare, try things, go out and get sexy outfits, lingerie, toys etc,or meetingthem a the door wanting and 'jumping thier bones' i fantasize about my wife doing that. When I have tried to encourage her ,buy buying things or suggesting that we go shopping, telling her how good she looks etc, I doesnt seem to register. Sexy lingerie, sits in a drawer unused as she goes to bed in one of my shirts.
Her telling me 'thats just not me', gets frustrating after a while...
Bottom line can I expect her to change or should I just live with it and shut up?
I never liked giving oral, but I found out by chance that when I am pushed into it, it turns me on. I am not sure why, but I never liked receiving oral and bascially just want the feeling of being entered.
Last nite was a typical scenario for us: I reached over to "cuddle" him ( he seems intimidated if I actually initiate more directly) and he pulled me down for oral which gets us both going... at some point he recognizes his "obligation" to f**k me, and will position me and off we go.
What was special about last nite was that he stayed inside me for a long time; we even sort of dozed off, and afterwards, no negative comments about the time and such. Maybe he is feeling less "engulfed" by my higher desire, as Julie puts it.
IHJ---learning a lot of psych on this board...or maybe becoming psycho
Quote: Am I the only guy that loves to do this? lay inside holding until we melt away...?
Heh... I like doing that, but my W is all too happy to "start cleaning up" as soon as I'm done. I think the average time for her to "kick me out" and grab the tissues is about 30 seconds.
It's almost immediately for me. I love staying inside her until it just shrinks enough that I can't keep it in, but that NEVER happens. It has with former GF, but never with W.
