A New Beginning - after 2 years...

[bustingout]

Hi KG, I love reading your recent posts and how you are working through your angers and fears for yourself.

I have many similar concerns as you about parenting and co-parenting. This really hit home for me:

I am realizing more and more that even though our marital relationship is over, a successful co-parenting one will require much of the same work needed to fix or be successful in a M. We still need to listen, empathize, understand, compromise, validate, work as a team, find common ground, be kind and cooperative, be open, have good communication. At least that is my definition, but I think not my H's...

I guess I just don't see how if my H was not willing to make any further effort in those areas to fix our M, how he would do so for the sake of successful co-parenting. I don't think he will bring down his walls with me in order to achieve this, so I am very skeptical that we will be successful at it.

I could not have worded my feelings on this subject any better.

Thank you KG. You have given me more food for thought on my own behaviours and expectations.

Sending you my love. xxx