NG Do not carry the confidence that you are better than OW.. carry the confidence in who you are regardless of your W or OW.
Because as much as it hurts - people are entitled to make their own choices about who they want in their lives.
Live by your own moral code and let OW and W lives by there's.
Stand proud in your own selfworth.
Sometimes I find myself trying to measure up, she is pretty, younger, an athlete etc and then I remember all the things I am...I have to remind myself of these things and remind myself that they are my gifts and I should be proud and be me. But I think our self worth does take a beating in these cases and it takes awhile for us to be good again.
Sent those lyrics to H btw, he said very cryptic...CRYPTIC???? Men are truly, sometimes from Mars. I just replied that it was everything I felt and everything I aspired to as far as he was concerned and it always surprised me that with seven billion people on earth that someone felt the way I did ( of course, he doesn't know about you all lol)
Thank you, Val, very very true.
The last time i saw W, she implied that things might be different now if i had not pressed her when she first had interest in OW. i said that she could not work on our M at the same time she was hanging out with OW and she chose to hang out with OW... i think that is what motivated my statement, wondering if i had displayed enough confidence to sit and give her some space if things might have ended up differently. but then tbh i think that statement by W may just be her way to justify things on her end.
And regret is useless unless it motivates awareness and change.
Thank you, Val, your last sentence... I am working on that one. I realize that much of my self-worth is based on other's perceptions of me, instead of my own.
