She wants her initial investment plus a return. I think that is selfish. Perhaps my perception is wrong, but she is the one who is choosing to leave the family unit based on her owns needs and decisions. I wished to fix our problems. She did not, so why should it be fair? It is not fair to me that she doesn't care about my wishes. It is not fair to my daughter. Our financial security was based on being a family. She chose to leave that family, but wishes to reap all the benefits as well? It just doesn't seem right to me that my financial security, as well as my daughers, will be damaged while W walks away with a pocket full of cash to start her new life. Meanwhile, here I will be buried in debt that I will not be able to afford. Why, because it "fair"?
Our house was not a shady transaction. When we went to refi the business, the bank wanted the house included. The reason being, the house was on business property, which technically shows ownership. The house being included in the loan increased the overall value, increasing the collateral. Therefore, it gave us an even better interest rate. There was not really any other option. The bank would not refi without the inclusion of the house added. Although, we did not seek any legal counsel before arranging all of this. At that time, it did not seem like it would be an issue. Afterall, we were one big happy family.
