I hear you, wfm. I type out all my crazy here so I don't let it out IRL. I'm learning to edit my thinking regarding the mindreading and expectations, but sometimes you have to just voice these thoughts so they can go away! I do think that your May deadline for H coming home could be an unrealistic expectation and you wouldn't want to set yourself up for getting hurt on that one. My girlfriend tells me to 'be curious' to try to drop the expectations thing. It's tough though, especially after a long marriage. Because I never expected this after all these years!
