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[Incandenza]

Wow. Last week has been very very difficult. I had a coaching session with Chuck which left me feeling very optimistic for our marriage counseling session. Basically, Chuck told me to listen, and respond to her and focus on wanting her happiness and try to not focus on the divorce. I did that and I felt like a lot of important things came out of the session, mostly that she felt neglected and professionally invalidated by me. Never my intention. She is apparently actively looking for a new place for her and my daughter which is very difficult for me to accept but I have been trying to keep my PMA and GAL. In addition I continue to spend as much time as possible with my daughter and do as much housework as possible. I know she sees the difference in me but she remains unwilling to even acknowledge it. That's fine. I want to change all this and so I am working on it.

I picked up a copy of 5 love languages as some people noted. I am realizing how differently we each express out love. She speaks in time. I speak in affirmation. We've been expressing our love inefficiently for the others's language. My W also wanted me to read True Love by the Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Nhan. I have read it twice now and find it a very insightful boom as well and am working to apply it to my sitch.

In the meantime, I am just GALing, walking a lot, reading a lot, riding my bike when I can, and spending every possible minute with my daughter. This is very hard but I am resolved. I still see hope despite her words and deeds.

Thanks for being here everyone.

Can't wait to talk to Chuck again.