Thanks Spartan. I think I will absorb that a bit and find a middle ground on some of these things. I am going to go ahead and get the house looking nice. Its not looking great at the moment, and I would like it be nice for myself, I also think that we have a superb house, if it looked as good as we always expected it too it will be harder for W not to enjoy living in it. But as far as D proceedings, I am not going to put too much thought into that, these are the things W seems to be not doing a lot about (i think anyway) but almost expects me to have done my homework on.

Me: 38 W: 35
M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs
S8 D5
BD: Feb 13
Still Living Together

I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.