I don't know if this makes sense, but I have to see this journey through. The emotions I am now feeling I need to deal with. For many years I thought friendship would be impossible, but now, if he is truly moving through the crisis - and I don't think he is one of those who fully sorts himself out - then I want to be there.
I think each journey, for the people here, is different. The greatest gift is to re-find ourselves, and make peace with all that has happened. If we get closure of one kind or another that is a bonus. There are no rules
He doesn't call, just emails, and not often.
MLC is just very very sad, and a terrible waste. The hardest thing is to keep a compassionate heart.
No B. The hardest part is not keeping a compassionate heart although I think that's difficult on its own. I think the hardest part is to reconcile the relationship (not get re-married or anything like that; but to reconcile the relationship between two people where one was hurt very deeply). It not only takes a lot from the person that did the hurting, but it takes even more from the person that was hurt to go through that with the person.
That's how closure comes. It's honestly going to be about the only way I can think of getting total closure vs. just the feeling of peace and acceptance. Both are worthy, but that reconciliation of two people is priceless.
I agree that facing the feelings is very important.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
