NO Expectations... surprized me last night with that pleasant NON WORK related text message. He must have been lonely last night as he also texted my daughter a 1/2 hour before me.
Gosh, why doesn't he just say "come home u guys, i miss you?"
Recalling back to our last R talk ~ he mentioned somethng about us getting back together could be better than ever ...or ??
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
Recalling back to our last R talk ~ he mentioned somethng about us getting back together could be better than ever ...or ??
^^^^ is an expectation. Let it go. Continue with the progress you are making. It's been one day. Now it's time to get through today. Worry about tomorrow, tomorrow.
"NO Expectations... surprized me last night with that pleasant NON WORK related text message. He must have been lonely last night as he also texted my daughter a 1/2 hour before me."
MIND READING and OR just MAYBE because you didn't pepper him with pressure and R talk you got a txt because of this
"Gosh, why doesn't he just say "come home u guys, i miss you?" Recalling back to our last R talk ~ he mentioned somethng about us getting back together could be better than ever ...or ??"
terrible job not mentioning or taking focus off H. Mind reading.It took most of us 6 months to years to get M back on track. Your crying after a day. You better start dosing yourself with reality. You shouldn't have responded to his txt. You only did because you were afraid if you didn't he would question you or not like you.
Stop talking about your H on here. what page are you on with DB book? Have you printed out the 37 rules and read them over and over. I suggest you do so.
PON.. I know that its just mind readig.. I was just posting to get it off my chest. not crying, just venting/sharing. Was not focusing on him. Im ok today! honest! Happy actually, happy that he texted last night NOT ABOUT WORK !! very happy for that!
I responded to his text as I know that he is "trying", he was in a happy mood and sharing... that is him "trying"...but, only a teeny tiny bit. If I did not respond, he would feel I didn't reciprocate. I feel my responses were "matter of factly" and nothing could be judged by them, either way.
There are times that I have not responded to his texts or even that phone call at 11pm on a Saturday night.
I am on page 146 & 154, re-reading a few things. I also read 37 rules often.
Tx for chekkin in, but I'm ok today. Really!
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
another nicety... h just called (work convo only other than to mention he would like to pick up the cat on his way back), we then said bye. He called back immediately, saying sorry he hung up quickly, he didn't mean to hang up like that. I said no prob. I hadn't even noticed that it was too quick. weird.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
SS... did you and your hubby become friends first? Were you ever "needy"?
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
