I found Limbo Land

[Papa4Life]

Wow, Mr2.4, the more I read of your thread, the more similarities I see with my own sitch. I have many of the same 180s, goals, and concerns that you do: helping with household chores, hoping W will agree to a night out together, trying to be a much better listener etc.

I also have to wonder: how do I go along with W's wishes to move into a place of her own if that's EXACTLY what I DON'T want?! If I don't go along with it, she'll probably think it's more of the same from when I left a lot of the household responsibilities to her. But if I take a proactive approach, I'll just be easing her out the door that much sooner. It's a real dilemma and one I don't have a good answer for. I wish you the best in your DBing efforts.