I have however reviewed by 180's which are here. I will keep tweaking them as I find out more, discover some are not as relevant as I thought.
Tidy as I go, don't step over things - pick them up and put away, empty the bin, clean up dog mess, do the dishwasher. Don't get involved in things she is already doing, find something else to do.
Relax around kids, don't stress about them or whether the get ill, and enjoy their company.
Give her space and independence - no snooping, no asking questions, no reaction when she goes away / out
Look after myself, dress well, go to gym, smell good, keep those old man hairs trimmed!
Listen to everything she has to say, really listen and take it in, and do not interrupt
Do not agree to something or about something just because she wants / likes it - have my own opinion If i say / agree to do something - do it straight away or asap!
Take the lead on clearing finances and debt. And keep a tight eye on expenditure.
Get my own life - be exciting like I was when we met!
Do not take her for granted.
Show her how much you appreciate her and what she does. For instance notice when she cleans the house or give her praise for something she has done well.
Me: 38 W: 35 M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs S8 D5 BD: Feb 13 Still Living Together
I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.
