I don't think they connect too much either - particularly not if its not in their "world".
H being gone has been interesting for me. There are times I miss him. I definitely feel very bad for what he's having to go through with his parents, I know what he's doing is extremely difficult.
But when he talks about coming back my thoughts are more towards "my vacation's over" than "oh thank goodness".
I feel terribly materialistic but the facts are that if there was a way to financially survive while he stayed up there that would be fine by me.
Detaching is definitely easier with him not here.
Now I'm thinking this is all insensitive to you Portia, because I think you regret the distance between you and XSO.
And maybe with time, I too would regret the distance.
These are such strange times. I'm sitting here looking at a family photo taken about 18 years ago. H is holding S20 (aged 2) and I am holding D18 (aged about 6 mos) and H has his arm around me. (twins hadn't come along yet)
I look at that photo, and I feel like I'm betraying .... I don't know who? Me, him, the kids the institution of marriage itself? But I feel "wrong" that my days are easier without him in them.
Well thats pretty melancholy stuff. And on a Friday too!
I have work and then a track meet to attend for one of the twins. And then of course my weekend at fastfood land... but for now I'll put on my happy face
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
H is holding S20 (aged 2) and I am holding D18 (aged about 6 mos) and H has his arm around me. (twins hadn't come along yet)
