I don't want to be the one to chastise you, FY! And our genders are reversed. But what you suggest hasn't really worked for me too well. And I know the solutions to MLC aren't exactly one-size-fits-all.
I noticed that any of the tiniest flirtations in that direction pushed my H farther away. But it might not be like that for everyone. I'd say just be very, very careful & have your radar up. It's always "do what works" and my ways in my sitch haven't always been conventional either.
Thank you, RH.
I often wonder why it is there are more women in the MLC forum than men. Is it because more men spin into MLC than women? Because women more often seek/use DB methods than men? Something else?
You say if we're going to flirt, we need to be very, very careful and keep our radar up. I agree! This is what men do every time they put the moves on a woman. It's how we get in. It's our way. It's likely how we got our wife in the first place! Women don't do this. (well, not nearly as often) They learn to fend off unwanted advances, which gently forces us to back off. This dynamic is the same one we are dealing with when attempting to re-connect, and is why I will not be afraid to start testing the waters, when I feel the time is right for us.
So yes, I do think the reversal of genders matters.
I'm not saying I know what's right for you T^2! Only you can determine that. Just throwing a guys thoughts out there for ya buddy. Carry on y'all.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
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