Grizz, as long as you're in this limbo, I think there is hope. My DB coach suggested simultaneously doing two fronts: on the one hand, continue to DB, detach, and GAL, but on the other hand, do things to show your W that she can be happy in the marriage, its fun, fulfilling, or provides whatever she felt was lacking.
Time-wise, I think when your BD and mine is the same, and I do feel that I have detached some, I'm not as needy, etc. You seem to have also been able to make progress here. Others on the board show that time does this. As time goes on, if things don't improve, you'll be in a better position to decide whether to press your W on making a decision.
