Advice

[in_it]

Stay strong, Jim. Remember the boards are always here for you to come to & vent & put it all out there.

[Jeack]

Thanks man. I will. i'm not leaving, if anything i can become one to help others, the way others have helped me. even though i haven't given up hope it's nice be out of limbo land and feel good that i've tried everything. some things just don't work out

[Jeack]

sorry thanks WOman. lol

[AnotherStander]

Jim, I think you handled it just fine. I think a lot of us get worried in these sitches that there is a RIGHT way and we need to know what it is because we're afraid we're doing the WRONG thing. But honestly, when it comes to a WAS what may seem right today will seem wrong tomorrow and vice versa. For example, she might say today that she wants to meet, but then tomorrow you try to make arrangements to meet and she makes it sound like she NEVER said that and may even sound miffed at the suggestion. That kind of stuff is par for the course with a WAS because of the storm raging inside them. That's why we're always saying "detach", because it's the only way to sanity. We step off the roller coaster to save ourselves from throwing up, LOL!

[Jeack]

Game over now, force to detach after talking with attorney, I wish all my fellow DBer's great success. and to the pro's that were there everyday for all of us! Much Love to you all.

[Jeack]

Jim, I think you handled it just fine. I think a lot of us get worried in these sitches that there is a RIGHT way and we need to know what it is because we're afraid we're doing the WRONG thing. But honestly, when it comes to a WAS what may seem right today will seem wrong tomorrow and vice versa. For example, she might say today that she wants to meet, but then tomorrow you try to make arrangements to meet and she makes it sound like she NEVER said that and may even sound miffed at the suggestion. That kind of stuff is par for the course with a WAS because of the storm raging inside them. That's why we're always saying "detach", because it's the only way to sanity. We step off the roller coaster to save ourselves from throwing up, LOL!

You are a true inspiration to all of us, Keep up your goods! And thank you!

[Jeack]

Well I'm. So much crappy stuff has happened. Got call from W that her car got towed and needed me to get it out since its in my name. Left work Monday to ride with her to get it out. I even lent her money cause didn't have enough to pay for it. The kicker is she was with OM. Confirmed from a friend. Apparently her friends with benefits guy she was talking to before we got back together. Apparently there in the same boat, lots of student loan debt living with there parents and no real career.

So I called her out on OM, all she said its not like that and wants me find someone new. We did agree on a property settlement. So my lawyer is drafting it now.

I really thought she would come to her senses. Now I'm back to not eating sleeping and pretty depressed. [censored]

[Jeack]

I'm thinking of calling her and making one last plea to save this marriage. It really hurts that she moved on so quick. I've only got ruffle 60 days til the D is final. Scary

[Jeack]

Roughly not ruffle. Lol

[sayitaintso]

I'm thinking of calling her and making one last plea to save this marriage.

You can't talk your way out of this one Jim. Consistant actions over time and becoming the best Jim you can be and maybe some day she will get to a place where she is open to seeing the new and improved you.

Best