Not confused...trying to move forward...

[BRNR]

Thanks Snodderly and Papa for validating my email response to H. I actually did the response without hesitation, so I think I am getting the hang of responding to H's tyranny.

Papa, I have consulted a lawyer, and know what I can probably get during the divorce. But I am really not sure how that works with just filing for support without the divorce. I believe different rules come into play, and really are determined by the judge. But I am hoping it somewhat mirrors the compensation I would get from the divorce. We will see.

AJ and Snodderly I agree this is the boohoo from my H, I keep trying to remind myself that he has no care or concern how I or the boys will go along, why should I care about him....I just keep reminding myself of this, and hopefully it gets me through.

AJ- you may be right that he might have some hidden money's somewhere, but I know how much he left with, how much he made, and I also have seen where he has spent selfishly. The way he is pressing for the income tax money to come in and all that...I am thinking his cash flow is um, we'll not.

WH- DivorceCare was really good. I actually got there early and kinda scoped it out a little. the church it is held at is also a school/daycare, so it is a really big place and I wasn't sure where I had to go. I pretty much walked five feet in the door, and a lady walked up to me, asked where I needed to go, and turns out she was there too for the class. So we got some coffee and talked before the class started and then she asked to exchange numbers. We actually found out we used to talk to each other on the phone when I was a CSR at my previous job...ten years ago. So it was nice to put a face with the name after all these years. We are going to try and go out for coffee this weekend.

Portia, thanks for stopping by and catching up. As we keep saying we feel and think so much alike, so know that I am on the same page girlfriend. I guess if anything, Portia you are my mirror.

So, I think that sums it up from all my post today...everyone have a good night, keep all your thoughts, 2x4's (I am not sure if I have gotten one of those yet), challenges (AJ-lol), opinions, and advice coming. You all have been my best friends through this, and this forum has become my "safe" place to in the words of Will.I.Am and Brittney Spears..."scream and shout and let it all out"

Goodnight!