It dawned on me in another thread that I really need to improve my validation skillz. It's something that I'm so lacking in ability that I feel like I don't know how bad I really am at it.
Here is how AnotherStander put it:
Originally Posted By: AnotherStander
Validation is not agreeing/ disagreeing/ explaining/ negotiating/ etc. The idea is to A) encourage the other person to share more feelings and B) let them know their feelings are valid, important and legitimate.
1) So how do I learn to validate? What kinds of questions do I ask and/or comments do I make?
Maybe a better question is: how do YOU validate?
2) More specifically (and I don't want to get too caught up in specifics because the examples could be limitless), what about when W says how she feels about her appearance? I think this is a fairly typical and volatile example.
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