I don't know how big your city is but can you find a new home group? I also know that many double winners are amazed at what they get from AlAnon that they didn't get from AA. It does tend to be a small community until you get to really large cities. I'm in a metro area of nearly 1 million and run into people from AlAnon groups I've attended quite often. I was in a restaurant just last week and looked over and saw a meeting after the meeting going on with the Sat morning group I attended.
You'll work through this and get to your solution, I have no doubt. Keep detaching.
Problem is, there a very few meetings with babysitting. One ala-non (that's the one he met the OW he loves at...nice I have to name the OWs like that, ha!) and the only weeknight one is my home group. So, I just need to email him that I need to go to that meeting since I have the kids all the time. Or, just strickly go to ala-non right now and pay for a sitter. Honestly, I just need ala-non more right now regardless if I'm alcoholic or not. I'm not spending much thought on that right now, it's just something I've been talking about with IC when talking about my extreme co-dependecy. I regret NONE of my path. I am a happy, stronger T from the twelve steps. I have great friends and support.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
