I do not regret the conversation if it at least wakes him up to the possibility that I may choose that it is healthier for me to take a different path than the one he seems to have unilaterally mapped out for me.
He mentioned he would be discussing all of this with his counsellor. Good. My statement was true and true to me. I feel that he is allowing this MLC to allow him to play the victim and blinding him to real consequences. I delivered a truth dart.
I agree with you that sometimes DB feels like we are not being true to ourselves. In those instances, I do not DB. I am generally a strong and outspoken person (he used to love that about me) but the advantage to DB was that I was able to work on my softer side. And it needed work.
Since your H is like my SO - we've become the "antique" in their world - then I believe we both have some time. Time is what I need right now. Time to stop the swirling thoughts, time to get back on track and time to figure out what I need and want.
I truly had no expectations that this would turn him around. But I do hope that his potential loss of me will slow him down enough to think about what he is doing. He has a long way to go, the question is do I try to walk with him? Do I be his casual friend? Can I be his friend knowing that he is pursuing someone else? IDK.
