Of Feral Cats, and All That

[reachingHigher]

Hi FY and T^2,

I don't want to be the one to chastise you, FY! And our genders are reversed. But what you suggest hasn't really worked for me too well. And I know the solutions to MLC aren't exactly one-size-fits-all.

I noticed that any of the tiniest flirtations in that direction pushed my H farther away. But it might not be like that for everyone. I'd say just be very, very careful & have your radar up. It's always "do what works" and my ways in my sitch haven't always been conventional either.

In my case, it's always had to have been HIS idea.

As recent as last week on a night when he didn't sleep here he texted from work in the morning to see how I was and how I slept. I decided it was okay to say "to be honest, I am starting to miss you again when you aren't here at night"

which was met with "awww. I'm sorry"

which I interpreted as "poor little girl"

....and wasn't the "I miss you too" that I clearly desired.

A weekly later I got the "I like having you next to me"

....which was not precipitated by my feelings or promptings.

Each person is different so you have to go with what works. I like that T^2 is putting something in her inbox each morning. I would just go with humor before any sexual flirting. It says "I'm here for you" and she can give him signals. Idk. Just what I think.