That 2nd is probably not the best example because it's probably not a real strong expression of feelings, and strong feelings is where validation kicks in. IE, if her mother were in the hospital and she said she was worried, that is DEFINITELY a time for validation. But if she's just mentioning in passing that she's not sure y'all can afford something then it might make more sense to try and talk that through to determine whether or not you really can afford it. Does that make sense?
Yes I think so. It has to be something that is a true emotion before I validate it. Feeling depressed, Upset, Worried (for instance about the health of somebody), Angry, etc.
Me: 38 W: 35 M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs S8 D5 BD: Feb 13 Still Living Together
I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.
