Anything left to salvage? - or where from here?

[mrtwopointfour]

I am socially isolated, live my life with little concern for anything except whether I am an adequate husband and father (much of that being focused on whether I am making enough money), and I am anxious that I am inadequate most of the time.

I read this and related to it straight away. I was permanently stressed at kids, and at other drivers on the road etc, but as soon as my W announced she was not in love with me any more, and she wanted D it all went. Not sure why it made a difference, its almost like the pressure was released (although yes, I have a whole new set of problems to deal with now! )

Sounds like you are ready to role up your sleeves and get stuck in - good luck!