Not confused...trying to move forward...

[Papa4Life]

I wonder about that myself, BRNR: what do they THINK is going to happen? Maybe the WAS's mind is too fogged and confused to think realistically about things realistically, but I mean being shocked, SHOCKED that their financial situation is deteriorating? Well, no offense, but duh... That's like my WAW being upset that she didn't feel she had enough free time to socialize and do more activities with colleagues after working hours after we had our twin girls. Does she really think that she's actually going to have MORE free time if/when we separate and she becomes a single parent? What planet are they from? I'm going to remain fully engaged with my children if/when we separate, and W has made it clear she feels I should continue to maintain my current level of responsibility for taxiing the kids around and taking care of them after school, whereas I am going to have to work much more to support myself, and can't imagine how we're going to afford additional childcare for our four (count 'em four) kids. I guess they're just not thinking straight at the moment.

But I definitely applaud you for your determination to go through the courts to ensure that your H continues to meet his financial obligations. My father walked out on us when I was still a baby and my mom was too proud or not willing to pursue a legal injunction to provide financial support. Partly as a result, we were stone broke through most of my childhood (I once did the math and came to the conclusion that my parents got married, had us to get dear ol' dad out of the Vietnam draft -- mom turned 20 exactly a week before I was born (my sister is 13 months older than me) and she was a high school dropout, and apparently not many employers were interested in hiring a 20-year-old single mother in the early '70s). All of this is to say that I applaud your determination to be patient and receptive on the one hand, but not to take any BS on the other hand. No need to risk your well being and look the other way as he tries to become a deadbeat. Hope it doesn't come to that.