I've realised that Limbo can be dangerous. There are things that keep cropping up but mostly W is carrying on 'as if' we are going towards D, I am carrying on 'as if' we are not heading for D.

However, I have realised being in this situation you need to be careful, as its all too easy to forget what you are up against, and start to fall back into M life again. For instance, yesterday I forgot to listen properly. I know it happens, I am not beating myself up about it - but it has shown me you need to be giving R 100% attention at all times. I also realised my GAL was slowing, so need to boot that up again.

I think I am going to re-assess my 180's, and Goals again after reading DR through (well half way through 2nd time). I think mine are too vague and I am not noticing the small steps. Plus my 180's, I am managing to do some of those as second nature now, so should I look deeper to find more or will this exhaust me and let me slip on the ones I had original set to work on?

I realise I have 2 threads going here so I think I will have to make a decision to close one down which I will also do, as I feel a bit Jekyll and Hyde!!!

Me: 38 W: 35
M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs
S8 D5
BD: Feb 13
Still Living Together

I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.