Almost two years and still stuck in limbo

[littleGTO]

Hi, newman,

Thanks for posting on my thread! GTO/Turtlegirl, here!

I too am a guilty blooper-user- I text the acronyms accidently sometimes thinking everybody uses these, don't they???

I can understand your frustration with having dealt w your sitch for 2 years and seen no movement forward from your W. I agree it is time to do something different. In-house S sounds like a good idea.

I have to say since H has moved out I finally can breathe at times when I'm home (& he's not here to visit, of course) and don't think about what he' doing (texting/ emailing OW like I know he is).

As far as when to be part of in-law events, etc, I think you did a good job putting the kids first with Easter. Holidays are special to kids and I think trying to get through a day with your W is worth it for them. Other times I would agree that you are okay NOT to be part of the family in-law gatherings.

What are you doing to GAL? I mean not with your kids? I think if you are getting out there meeting new people/old friends maybe this would help take away some of the "vacancy" of your heart/happiness. That's what I hope will happen for me over time.

I'm glad you decided not to leave your home. BUT, if you do get to this dilemma again down the road don't feel you are letting your kids down or abandoning them. You have been standing for your marriage for a very long time and you deserve to be happy and be in a R where love is reciprocated.

This is the heavy on my heart- to love but not to be loved. It is so painful and lonely. NObody deserves this--it is not a way to live indefinitely. Do you have a timeline for yourself?

I do feel for you & understand your pain. And, I get the "I ready to be done" part of your feelings.

Hang in there, newman!