Please help

My wife is back in the house the next three night. She stated that one of the reasons why she left and is having the affair is because we grew apart. She is actively having the affair. A 180 would be to spend more time with her-but that's persuing........any suggestions?


ME 38 W 37
T18 M5
D3
BD 1/7/13
PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing
2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13
W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13
First mediation appt 12/19/13