Good idea but I don't do his laundry anymore. I decided when I found out about OW if she was more worthy of performing certain duties then she could perform them all.
I could put a piece of meat in the pocket and let the dog go after it.
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
So another day done. After work I met some friends for happy hour at the local sports bar. I shouldn't really call it a sports bar since it is actually a nice restaurant with a bar area. It was nice to catch up, eat some good food and have a couple drinks. It's been too long since I have visited with those two and they kept me in stitches. I think (maybe my ego is getting as big as H's) that a few guys were checking me out. I'm not really interested but it gave me a boost of confidence. Maybe I'm not so over the hill after all! Lol!
I got home and the kids and H were playing UNO. It was nice to see. The kids climbed all over me and H didn't try to pull them away. He actually encouraged them to talk to me and tell me about their day. Hmmmm...that's a switch. After D went to bed I asked H if he was planning on getting anything else for S's birthday because I was going to start wrapping the presents. He said he needed to get batteries for the R/C helicopter H got him but that was it. I said I needed to get wrapping paper and tape and H tells me well you haven't shown me what you got S. I'm thinking ummm yes I did last Wednesday evening. Other than that H hasn't been around anyway to see anything. Yeesh. Oh well. So I got things out to show him after my shower and he's already asleep. Sigh.
Tomorrow night is my chain maille class. I'm really excited but nervous. I hope I can catch on. I have always wanted to learn this technique. It could be life changing. : )
Later, WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
H tells me well you haven't shown me what you got S. I'm thinking ummm yes I did last Wednesday evening. Other than that H hasn't been around anyway to see anything. Yeesh. Oh well. So I got things out to show him after my shower and he's already asleep. Sigh.
My H would fuss at me in the morning for STILL not showing him, lol.
Glad you had a good time with your friends. I'm sure you were getting checked out, good for you Its easy to not feel desirable when living with an MLCer so a confidence boost of some sort becomes essential.
You go girl
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
[quote=wishing, hoping]My H would fuss at me in the morning for STILL not showing him, lol.
Oh he did. I was getting ready for work and he said "you never showed me that stuff".'I told him he was asleep when I got out of the shower. He recommended getting a speaker for S's iPod and told me where to find it and added if I could not find it he would look for it.
S has soccer practice tonight at 5 and H expressed to me he won't get home in time to take S to practice so he's going to have S ride his scooter. Now why he would need to tell me that I don't know. I kind of get the impression that H wanted me to offer to get S to practice which I would if I was going to be around. I'm not. I have my class so I cannot rescue H this time. There is an upcoming soccer tournament in the city where OW lives and it happens to fall on H's weekend. The coach wants us to get hotel rooms so we can get all the kids together like last year. Thing is D has dress rehearsal for her recital that weekend PLUS I happen to know it's OW's birthday that weekend. Remember, H cannot take the kids by OW until the divorce is final. So I asked him this morning how we were going to work it out? He just shook his head and muttered "I dint know." He has not figured out how he will get around this one yet I guess.
I will give it a bit more time to sweat about it but if necessary I will get myself a room and enjoy the weekend and let H figure out the logistics. ; )
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
An email from H that he will be traveling overseas the end of this month and he was asking if I would be flexible in adjusting times with the kids. Of course!! Anything to encourage him to get the heck away from me!! LOL!
I know it's not very DB'ing but at this point I am out to save myself and my kids and to heck with H. I am hoping his 5 day trip gets unexpectedly extended. Funny how the placement issue with the kids is resolved and now he is traveling again.
Timing is everything I guess.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
know it's not very DB'ing but at this point I am out to save myself and my kids and to heck with H.
I can't wait until I get to this place with my feelings...just not caring. I am working on it and it is getting better, but no where as near as you.
BombOctober 2012- OW 11/28/12 -H still denies Separated 11/29/12 Own place 12/12/12 Confessed OW/EA/PA 2/2/13 Oct 2013 - I knew I was done Jan 2014 - Anticipating the rest of my life
I wouldn't say I didn't care. I still look at things in the house like his "old" wardrobe, pictures of the two of us from happier times, cards I gave him or he gave me and I cry. I still love my "old" H, but this new alien just gives me the creeps. I have realized I do not want to waste any more of my life being around miserable people and right now H is a miserable person. I realized that on Easter Sunday when he was just sitting there sleeping in his chair. I got really annoyed that he threw such a tantrum about seeing his kids on Easter and he was sleeping.
It took a while to get to this point. I have been going through this for over a year and it wasn't until recently that I discovered my life can be so much more. And it is. I am far happier now than I was a year ago today, maybe even two years ago today.
No matter what the future brings for me and H one thing is for certain...I will never compromise myself or doubt my inner sense again.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
