Irreplaceable

[Takevowsserious]

Channeling my inner Beyonce, busting a few moves in the process...

Unfortunately, my moves are more like the Justin Timberlake SNL "Single Ladies" skit! Lol!

I wanted my new thread title to be "H used to like it, wish he'd remember why he put a ring on it" but I couldn't get it to fit.

I mean really... Our spouses once thought we were good enough to spend the rest of their lives with, so our new found place of being chopped liver kinda svcks.

So... I went with another Beyonce song - Irreplaceable.

Because really, WE are irreplaceable. Even if our jello- brained spouses don't realize it.

I 100% believe that if things don't work out between us, it is his loss. Not that I won't be sad - but could I find someone who isn't a selfish, self-centered, cheating, spend your families $ on your ho bag liar? I think it wouldn't be hard to trade up in that scenario!

Now my real H - again - THAT guy was amazing. But I'm not going to hold out forever for him.

And other things in our lives are irreplaceable - our dignity. Self- respect. Honor. Family and friends. Every minute spent with our children.

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Evening update-

UW, you had mentioned in a previous post that my H may be well on his way to hitting rock bottom, and one of the reasons being that he sees me moving on with my life.

I think you may have something with that... Damn, you're good.

So, my parents usually take the boys once a week for a few hours in the evening to give me a break and also spend quality time with their only grand kids. They have been doing this for awhile now.

A month or so ago, H got irritated with me because he claimed I didn't tell him till the last minute when they were taking the boys. He accused me of doing it on purpose, and wanted to know why.

I asked him, what reason would I have to purposely tell you last minute? He didn't know. I also said that sometimes my parents contact me last minute, or I just forget to tell him - which is the truth.

I have been making more of an effort to let him know what the plans were.

Now today, he was supposed to be with his "brother" after work. So I thought it would be nice to see if my mom wanted to meet the boys and I for dinner (my dad was working). I didn't bother to tell H the plans. He usually doesn't roll home till 8,9, 10:00 anyway.

He calls me on the way home, asks me where I'm at, and says that his parents stopped over the house to drop some things off for the boys. Then he says he is on his way home too. I say something like - oh, I thought you were meeting your brother, and he says that he did for a little bit. I tell him then that the boys and I were meeting my mom for dinner - and he got very irritated. Wanted to know why he is the last to know these things. Huh???

He was okay when we got home, probably because his parents were here. I invited his parents to come with us, but they had already eaten. When I left with boys, H seemed almost a little sad, told me to have a good time. He was okay with me once we got back, and for the rest of the evening.

So....

I don't know what really happened with him today. There was a bigger hole in his story than the freakin' Titanic, by I'm not questioning it. I wonder if he worried about his story with his parents (they talk to his brother all the time). Who knows.

Bottom line for me - if I want to make plans to see my parents (or anyone else), I don't need to inform him of this. If he wants to be out doing whatever with whoever, I'm not gonna sit around boo-hooing about it.

And I think he's starting to realize that.

Goodnight