A lot of my 180's involve my wife. By that i mean my behaviour towards her, the things I didnt do, the respect I didnt show her and the kindness I could have given her.
Therefore 180's would be-

- Show her respect unconditionally regardless of what is happening This would mean letting her go, letting her make her own choices in life about our marriage and supporting them regardless of how hard it may be for me.

- BE kind to her no matter how difficult things are or how frustrating this is.

- Rid myself of all the unnecessary anger and learn how to difuse it. Stop sweating the small stuff

- Learn how to forgive and move on from arguments, dont harbour negative thoughts after it.

- HAve a PMA, dont be automatically pessimistic. Half glass full, not half empty


Are these real 180's? or are they too specific to her.
My concern is they wont be acknowledged or seen...the walls around her heart are so high and she is so clear and definite in her decision to walkaway from this marriage, its hard to see how anything will get through.
Having said that there is also always room to be more respectful to others in general as well being more kind.

Me - 37
W - 37
M -5
T - 15

S=5
S=3

Seperated - 12/12
BD - 20/03/13
Still seperated - no R or M talk yet.