So after the big break throughs last week. Last night we talked for about 30 minutes about the SSM book. She is almost done with it.
She said it is the best book ever. She is the LD and thought she was just nuts and alone in the world. But that the book showed her she was normal, but what it was doing to me, the HD one. She said she's been using a couple of the ideas in the book to help and has been thrilled with it.
All in all, we are talking. Intimately, about sex. It's great.
You'all, I still feel that it is a MUST: You have to get your LD spouse to read the book. Stand on your head, or write a very serious letter/card to them (like I did). Do what it takes.
Make a decision, you WILL stay in this unhappy situation or you will NOT. If things are already bad, you can't mess them up anymore trying to get them to sexually engage.
Follow up for HD women and LD (?) men that I've read about on this site. Sex abuse is extremely high for young boys/men and is on the increase. It is even more shameful for men because of the homosexuality aspect. If sex abuse effects women it the point of sexually shutting down, I'm sure it effects men.
I have no experience with this, but through this process I've learned my wife was abused as a kid and I'd like to remove the sex organs from the offender for trying to mess up my marriage now.
A LD man needs help. This book can start that process.
