Had a second session with DB coach this Monday. Had some advice, essentially since we are getting along well, I should try to show her that living with me is exciting and fun.
W is very negative on her minivan, so we switched cars and now I drive the minivan and she drives the Honda civic. DB coach suggested this is a good opportunity for validation by me telling her how I see driving the minivan is not fun, etc. I'll do this.
W seems to have changed course on leaving because she wants to invest $$ in the house. We are moving forward on a kitchen remodel that was on hold due to her reluctance. Also, she is initiating a new project to do a patio outside. So this is a positive step.
However, there are indications that her fundamental unhappiness has not changed significantly. She left her cell phone out, and I couldn't help myself but look, and in text messages to a girlfriend she is still infatuated with another guy at the gym, and says she is staying for the kids.
Next week is my kids spring break, and we will send them to my in-laws for the week, leaving my W and I alone. On Sunday I made plans for the two of us to go to a winery in Paso Robles where they have zip lines and then you do wine tasting afterwards. I think we'll have fun. With my wife's MLC she is now interested in trying new things, especially physically challenging things, so the zip line should fit the bill.
