DB'ing is about going against your gut feelings and what makes sense to you. So the question is this - does SHE want to talk these things thru right now?
Odds are that she does not, and is trying to sort out her own thoughts and feelings and doesn't have a real grasp on those for herself. Now you want to throw into the mix your thoughts and feelings - this is pressure, pure and simple.
Very succinct and insightful bblake! Thanks for sharing.
Maritimer, feel for you. In a similar situation myself - tough to detach while still in same household. Just when you think you have, something draws you back in. Completely in touch with that.......
Sounds like you have made great progress and you may be stronger and have more patience that you are aware of.....
Me-48,W-51 M-22,T-24 S- 18,16,9 Feb-Jul '11 Away from Home, after initial B date Aug-Dec '11 Back at Home on couch Dec '11-now Same bedroom, room mates only Dec '14 W files initial D paperwork
