we own a biz - pt 4

[makingmagic]

Tx again everyone.... the positive's I feel were him saying "if we get back together", "list", him saying "he would like to live with me again", looking hopeful when I suggested a vacation, then his text message last night (small appreciation), him saying actions may happen, but without pressure/expectaions, etc... there were a few.

I feel I am listening to sound advice with the exception of no R talks/temp checks... I really need to keep my mouth shut!


I have been DB'ing GAL (visit with friends, going out on weekends, etc). I have been giving space (except for work requirements). I have taken my claws out of him, way more than I ever thought I could. I haven't asked him about his time (he now volunteers a bit), I do not call/text obsessively (180), ... I do see how this has helped.

I do not think anyone is wrong/mistaken, etc in teaching me how to DB. I just am paranoid of losing him. P A R N O I D!! and I know that some of my old ways (affection/love) used to calm him down & made us intimate. So, I naturally want to do what used to work before. His heart used to melt to my "affection ways".

The latest: He has suggested that due to our business needs that I come over (tonight) and we can work together on our product so that it can be ready sooner. 2 tasking on one product ..... hmmmm so, pass the duct tape so I don't R talk!! I am concerned tho that this will be a way to have time spent "working" more & not "couple time"... does that make sense? I fear our rel'p will turn to work only, and his loniness will be satisfied on the clock! He won't want to hang out on a Friday night, etc....