DBing, European style

[Papa4Life]

She saw you doing a 180!

Good attitude, keep it up.

Thanks so much, Sandi. I know it's just something small, but I'm so happy that it looks like I'm at least on the right path again.

Even if we think we're sheltering our kids from the storm they do sense what is happening even if they don't fully understand it. Based on what you've described it sounds like you are a really great father and are doing your best to help your kids, so just keep doing what you're doing!

Thanks, Stander. I have been reading through your threads, and I think it's remarkable how 'togethet' your life is, even as your apart grom your wife. You talk often about working in the yard, going to school and sporting events with the kids, going out for meals as a family. I know you went through and probably still are feeling uncertain about things, but I really admire the way you keep yourself busy and remain active with kids. Oh, and the joke you made about "three buns" (the one that earned you a playful smack in the hindquarters from your W had me ROTFLOL It was so silly and so ... human. I really wish the best for you.

I understand why you feel that way. I went through it too. But I learned later that W DID realize what she was putting them through and it was eating her up inside. To this day she knows reconciling would be best for the kids (she has said this to me). But it's not reason enough for her to change her mind.

I think this is something that my W has been trying to convince herself of since the start of all this. I know first hand how hard it is and how people carry that hurt with them. I'm determined to do anything I can to make this as easy on them as possible.

Wow, well that's an amazing commitment, kudos to you for that! I hope everything works out, sounds like she's doing well now!

D3.5 is doing great now! She's developing normally. She and her sister will be starting school in the autumn, and she has a very good sense of humor (the little rascal takes after her dad!). And thanks for the compliment. Coming from a gold star dad like you, that means a lot indeed.

Awesome! It sounds like you genuinely meant it too, that probably surprised her as much as anything. That's the way to do it, it's the little things like this that add up to big changes

I sure did mean it. Which was why her response came as a surprise. I always did admire her organizational skills but maybe I could have told her that more often. The quiz she took said her LL was physical touching, even though I thought she responded best to acts of service, but now she's responding to words of appreciation. Maybe W is multilingual in many of the "romantic languages"!