When I reconciled with my wife after hear affair, I quickly decided that I couldn't demand RESULTS right away, and I CERTAINLY couldn't expect her FEELINGS to return immediately.
But I damned sure expected her EFFORT. That's what I tried to focus on, as I knew the feelings would take months to even a couple of years to return. But I doubt I could have remained in the marriage if she hadn't shown me her committed effort. Effort, honesty, transparency.
