Tx for the 2x4's everyone. I know it was bad and against DB'ing, but it also feels like I made some headway. Doing nothing feels like I am getting nowhere. Watching paint dry. When I do my r talks, I hear stuff. I like what I heard yesterday, and will hold on to that. I will wait for that list. Meanwhile, back to work only convos & space.

I do notice that I try to control to get what I want to hear... I want to HEAR/SEE these things from him.... I will wait. I am impatient. I get discouraged very easily. I am super stressed.

I feel I would do better db'ing if encouraged more and not beat up by the boards here. As we are learning in DB to focus on the positive behaviours by our spouses, and you are all doing that... but we prefer to give 2X4's to the members. Is this not wrong'ish?

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)