Gotcha. Yep, projection is a funny thing, isn't it? I can see it from another angle - he is ashamed of what he did and afraid of the consequences. But if he makes it your fault, then it's a totally different world. Kind of like making himself the victim so he doesn't get a spanking when dad gets home. "I know what I did was wrong, but I had to do it because of x, y, & z" kind of thing. More so with your kids. If he fesses up, he may be afraid they won't love him. Same for you. If he tells the truth, you may not respect nor love him.
They don't see it until much later if at all. The truth always sets you free even if painful. And the other, a coward faces a thousand deaths, while the brave, just one.
Thanks BRNR. Thanks for sharing. And no, you aren't crazy and it is not about you
Peace,
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
